When you fade to black in a video, you let one scene gradually move to nothingness before the next scene starts. For many the motion is virtually imperceptible…in fact, the fade isn’t even employed as much as it once was…but it remains an excellent place to find peace in life.
We all enjoy milestones; we all have bad times; and we all have triumphs. Fading to black in life requires stopping, recognizing that a moment is significant, and then sitting back for a moment, a day, a week and processing what just happened and where to go from here…reconfiguring your life.
If you enjoyed a milestone, like a big birthday….considering taking a weekend trip to a peaceful location or spending a quiet weekend at home engaging in the day-to-day tasks where you have time to contemplate….waxing a car, playing spider solitaire, driving through the countryside. If I couldn’t go for the odd cruise around from time-to-time, I’m not sure that I would ever be totally alone with my thoughts and just work through confusion or appreciate the steps I have taken forward.
Bad times should be treated basically the same way, though I often try to assess what is happening through a more critical lens is necessary. Was this dark day brought to my door through my own actions? If so, I try to think about how to avoid repeating the same mistake.
Triumphs…getting a promotion, a raise, a proposal….they require a more action-oriented reflection….while your waxing that car think about the things you are going to do to prove why you deserved what you have received and why you will, eventually, deserve more from your career or succeed in your relationship.
The fade out to black….it’s generally accompanied by a fade in…be on the right track when the lights come back up.